• Quieting the Voice Inside Our Heads
  • A Gift to our Mothers
  • A Tribute to Beverly Cleary 
  • Advanced Development Salon Series
  • NAGC Convention
by Linda Kreger Silverman

Ten years ago, I wrote an article entitled, “No Bullying,” about the way we bully ourselves. I believe that most of us have a harsh voice inside our heads that chastises us when we “make mistakes.” It is quick to judge us, often calling us names. “That was stupid!” The power this voice has over us increases our anxiety. In this era of mindfulness, we yearn for inner peace. We are aware that the more inner peace we attain, the more peace there will be in the world. Despite this awareness, we allow our critical inner voice to remain unchecked.

I would like you to join me in an experiment. Each time I hear a negative message toward myself, I am going to try to stop and listen to exactly what it is saying. If I don’t fully recall, I will ask, “Say that again?” If I can, I am going to write down the words and record the date. Then I am going to analyze the message and have a conversation with this part of my psyche. I imagine it will go something like this:

“Is this true?”
“Is it kind?”
“Would you say this to someone else?”
“How would you have rephrased it if you were talking to someone else?”
“Is it important?”
“Do you notice when I do something well?”
“Would you please try to be more aware of what I do well?”
“Would you please try to be kind to me?”
“Thank you.”

I have no idea if this will work, but I suspect that if I simply pay attention to the negative remarks, I will bring them into consciousness instead of burying them in my unconscious. It is only in the unconscious that reprimands have the power to shame me or undermine my self-esteem. My own awareness is likely to change the pattern. I plan on recording the dates of these mental outbursts and see if they lessen as I pay attention and engage in dialogue about them.

If we go on the assumption that all parts of us are genuinely trying to protect us, just the act of paying attention—really listening to our inner voice—is likely to calm it down. Maybe it screams because it doesn’t feel heard. Maybe we will learn something important in the exchange that will change our behavior. Maybe we will even feel some compassion for this part of us and try to comfort it.

If this idea intrigues you, please share your experiences. Write to gifted@gifteddevelopment.com. Thank you.

A Gift to Mothers from Tina Harlow

Oh Mama. It was already hard and you were already amazing. But then… over the last year, you emerged as a beautiful and mighty warrior. Amidst mounting losses and exhaustion, you found ways to stimulate their learning, comfort them when you felt like crying and champion their well-being. You taught them how to find joy in the simple things, how to creatively connect with others and how to find glimmers of light within the darkness. In you, they have seen possibility and hope.
 
Mama, you are so much more than you realize. Hopefully soon you will see.
 
Please accept this video from the bottom of my heart to yours. 
 
 

 

A Tribute to Beverly Cleary

 
On March 25, 2021, beloved author, Beverly Cleary, passed away, shortly before her 105th birthday. One of the most highly honored authors of her time, the Library of Congress designated Cleary as a Living Legend in 2000, and in 2003, she received the National Medal of Arts from the National Endowment for the Arts. Cleary wrote 42 books that sold at least 90 million copies in the US and have been translated into 30 languages. In Ramona Quimby, Beverly Clearly introduced D.E.A.R. Day—“Drop Everything and Read Day,” an important childhood rite of passage. Dear Mr. Henshaw, her most highly honored book, stands as her darkest work of children’s fiction. Her characters and their lives resonate with young readers. They were never mean of spirit and they always possessed a great capacity for love and forgiveness. 
 
 
 
 
Dr. Jerry Flack is Professor Emeritus and President’s Teaching Scholar Emeritus at University of Colorado, Colorado Springs. Please see Jerry’s excellent book reviews of award-winning children’s books on our website, Dr. Jerry Flack’s Children’s Book Reviews, as well as all of his Home Activities, with wonderful activities for children to do at home during this pandemic.

Important Announcements

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The next NAGC conference will be held in Denver, Colorado, November 11th through 14th. We are delighted to announce that Gifted Development Center will be well represented at this conference. Linda Silverman and Joy Lawson Davis have been invited to present a Signature Session on “Eliminating Gifted Programs Increases Inequity.” www.nagc.org Hope to see you there.

National Association for Gifted Children Conference

The Advanced Development Journal Salon Series is a hit! We are sold out for the rest of our salons. However, we are recording all five salons, and the recordings will be available along with the journal for $59. It is exciting to see an international community of gifted adults coming together through this series. Our next presenter, May 27th, is Willem Kuipers, from The Netherlands, on “Finding Your Balance Between Verbal and Imaginal Thinking Across the Lifespan.”

Gifted Development Center (GDC) is a service of the Institute for the Study of Advanced Development (ISAD). ISAD is a public 501c3 nonprofit research corporation directed toward the study of giftedness, advanced development and underdeveloped potential in women.